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What's Your Advice? / Dating

Man, 25, Turkey: Got Girl to Say 'Yes,' but He Was Thinking 'No'

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A friend told me, "There is a good girl. If you want I can introduce her to you." I said OK. The girl and I met. She was sweet and well educated. I thought that if I didn't like her, she mustn't know it. I must talk very normal and be outgoing, so the girl would feel good even if I didnt like her. I thought like this because I knew that that was her first experience.

She came. We talked for one hour about life, marriage, education, family. I asked a lot of questions and told her a lot of things about me. At the end I  persuaded her to say yes. Maybe I just wanted to be liked by one girl (I don't know). But I couldn't think how I could tell her that I didn't think I wanted to marry her.

One week later I thought I had better talk with her once again. When I called the friend who suggested the girl to me, he said yes we could, and she was waiting for a second meeting. She thought everything was OK and we would be a good couple. When I heard that, I thought I couldn't tell her no.

A second meeting hasn't happened. I know that rejection is terrible, especially if you love or start to love someone. But the girl wasn't a girl who I had waited for for years.

The question is, what do I want from a girl? And what do girls want from men? After this experience I feel terrible because one girl's dream has fallen down. I feel remorse.

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by: Anonymous
11/17/2012 10:16 PM
what a terrible explanation lan bu.


by: eylul from: TURKEY
11/16/2012 4:13 PM
hi,
to me, you have to listen your heart's voice.If you don't like her,you must tell it to her with honestly


by: Daniel Buitrago from: Colombia
09/30/2012 7:04 PM
In the world there are many situations similar or worse than yours. What you have to reflect is the following: In my opinion, women sometimes look for men just for his physical appearance or just because they are handsome. In Colombia many girls just want a man who gives them everything I mean clothes, jewelry, luxurious items or as many gifts then the girls are happy. Another case is when we talk about men sometimes we are just looking for sex. So you have to analyze what do you look for in a girl whether you want companionship, sex, money, love, or just someone who do you want to share for the rest for your life.


by: Anonymous
08/21/2012 1:05 PM
let this be a lesson to you. Don't do things for fun. Every decision you have to make must be intended and according to your inner core will. This time, tell the girl what you really feel about her. Though you could hurt her at first, she probably will thank you for being true to her.


by: Flyingfish
08/10/2012 9:11 AM
Hi!

i think you have made a good decision which is not seeing her the 2nd time. Because you are being honest to your heart. That's the most important feeling in a relationship that i found.

I have no idea what gisls want from men or vice versa because it's different among individuals. let's just say that you haven't met someone interesting enough for you to say 'yes'.

Good luck!