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Starting Younger to Prevent Dating Abuse

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This is the VOA Special English Health Report.
 
Programs that teach young people how to avoid abusive relationships are generally for high school or college age. But new programs are being created for younger students because they too experience abusive dating relationships.
 
Earlier this year the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation released a study done in the United States. Fifteen percent of seventh graders in the study said they had been the victim of physical violence in a relationship with the opposite sex. Seventh graders are about twelve years old.
 
Kelly Miller, a lawyer in the state of Idaho, directs a program called Start Strong Idaho. It started three and a half years ago. The goal is to help eleven- to fourteen-year-olds learn the skills to have healthy and safe relationships. For example, she teaches them to "wait a second and breathe" before they make a decision.
 
Ms. Miller says a big problem for young people is that television programs, video games and movies often show violent relationships. Mobile phones and the Internet can also create problems.
 
KELLY MILLER: "Now young people have access to one another 24/7, which I think really can complicate lives of young people that don't have the skills or boundaries or that ability to say, 'No I can't text you at two in the morning' or 'No, I really need to get to sleep by eleven because I've got a test tomorrow morning."
 
Kelly Miller says young people need adults to teach them what it means to have a healthy relationship. Several American cities have received money from the CDC, the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, for programs to prevent abusive relationships.
 
A private organization called Men Can Stop Rape has groups for boys between the ages of twelve and fourteen. These Men of Strength, or MOST, groups teach boys that being a strong man is not always about physical strength.
 
They learn that if they respect themselves and others, they will be men of strength. They are also taught that they can be allies of girls and women. A CDC study showed that boys in these groups are more likely help a young woman who is being mistreated by another boy.
 
In Idaho, the state does a Youth Risk Behavior Survey each year. Ms. Miller says the number of high school students who say they have been physically hurt by a dating partner has dropped by six percentage points in the past six years.
 
KELLY MILLER: "So we're hopeful if we continue this work in really promoting healthy teen relationships and teaching those skills, that we can continue to impact the Youth Risk Behavior Survey question." 
 
Next week, we look at some of the skills needed to build healthy relationships.
 
And that's the VOA Special English Health Report, available online at voaspecialenglish.com. Read, listen and learn English with our programs and activities. You can also find links to the Start Strong Idaho and Men Can Stop Rape websites. I'm Karen Leggett.

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by: betul from: TURKEY
07/23/2012 8:56 AM
This study is necessary for younger's psychology and future. because this youngers will found a family at their future.It is necessary for healthy family structure and good generation. thx


by: Anonymous
07/19/2012 1:29 PM
I confess that it was one of the most interesting and important subjects I read carefully in the past few years. It is vital to be taught boys and girls by their parents how to react to each others during the adolescent stage. Unfortunately, we witness many dating abuses amongs the teenagers and feel terribly bad to prevent such a mistreated event. We as a parents should take necessary measures for our pupils not to meet such an upsetting incident in future.


by: Yoshi from: Sapporo
07/19/2012 4:37 AM
It is a bit ambiguous what abuse rerationships among seventh graders mean. I suppose it would include namely physical violence and partly rape. I do not believe that fifteen percent of those young people are all saffering rape by dating partners. It's good to instruct young people how to make good relationships especially with the opposite sex. The message that respecting themselves and dating partners leads being men of strength seems a little abstractive for young people. But I'm sure studying principle is essential in any kind of learnig. I'm looking forward to
listening the skills to be strong men on the basis of principle of respect each other.


by: Anonymous
07/19/2012 3:13 AM
i think these programmes are necessary.

child upgrowth earlier than before.


by: Antonia from: CANADA
07/18/2012 6:48 PM
These are good ideas!
We are waiting for you VOA to introduce some of the skills needed to build healthy relationships.

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by: Apfel from: China
07/23/2012 6:52 AM
Yes, they can "learn" so many things from computer, TV, and other teens or directly from adults.

We do need a way!


by: Helene from: China
07/18/2012 5:35 PM
I understand the biology of boys in a fourteen ages because i have two boys one is fourteen ages one is younger. They think they are enough strenght and wisdom so they can do any things they want by themselves no need to ask their parents . There is terrible if i'm so busy in company .So parenthoods should save time talk to children,pay attention to them. let them explan what they think ,let them speak some things they see at school or in the street .That time ,we can understand their ideas and we can help them to solve their problems . This way we can help a school and we can help our children escape the difficulty of society although our children have spent time on the Tv, the computer or video game seeing the bad more than time we talk to them .